My Perspective on the Futility of Unicorn Hunting

“We are seeking our unicorn. She must be this or that, and always know her place.”

Ok, so that is a bit of a snarky rendition of the “unicorn” ads you will see, but for the most part that is the unicorn in a nutshell. The “third wheel” of a relationship, there to add pleasure for the other two. Sure, in some cases they hope to add the third party into the relationship, but in general the unicorn knows they are the third party.

For me, I see the term itself is a bit disrespectful. The unicorn is a mystical and rare creature, highly valued for the powers within its horn. With such a high value on something so very rare to find and with such power, using that term to describe someone that is just an “add on” to a relationship seems to me to be a bit insulting to unicorns. Yeah, I know… the term speaks more to the rarity of the third party, but one must not forget the value of that person, even if they are a third party.

Yes… I do have two subs. But I do not have a unicorn. Neither is a third party to the other’s relationship. I have a unique and special relationship with each of my subs. While Molly was first, my Pixie is in no way considered second. I love them both and value them both very highly. If in the future, another sub is taken, that will be its own relationship to develop, love and value, all on its own merits.

When I first became open to another relationship, it wasn’t about adding one to what Molly and I had. We had plenty of opportunities to play if we wanted (and we have.) Instead, it was about discovering another wonderful relationship between myself and someone else. I find tremendous fulfillment and satisfaction in deep, meaningful relationships, so I was open to the possibility of another. And I have been more than blessed to have found that, in many ways more than I should ever deserve.

Sure, there had to be a right fit. When my Pixie came along, she had to be accepting of me, and that I already had a relationship and be ok with that relationship continuing. But she was never expected to be a part of that relationship with Molly. It was never a demand, and even today is not a demand.

I am very fortunate in that they have actually found a beautiful relationship of their own, between the two of them. Each is connected to me, but they have found a connection between themselves as well. But that was never forced as it was important that they be able to choose to develop a relationship if they wanted it. Mutual respect and good behavior towards each other was the only requirement I ever had.

Do we play together? Well, yes we do, when it works for us all to do so. But that ability is really based on the fact that they have a relationship with each other, and also with me. Otherwise, it probably wouldn’t work out.

So for me, and yes, this is my own opinion, the hunt for a unicorn is a bit futile. If you want to have another lover, relationship, play partner (whatever you wish to call someone), then by all means feel free to pursue that as an option. But take the time to develop a unique relationship with that person for who they are, not just the fun they can add to your other relationship.

Of course, if it is just for play, and all adults are consenting, that’s one thing. But in most cases where a “unicorn” is mentioned, I don’t think they are just seeking a threesome.

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This is just my own thoughts and mental ramblings, written here so that I may look back upon my journey. You are welcome to read, enjoy and take from it what you wish, and leave the rest. But in no way is this intended to tell others how they should live their lives.