Relax, I only said hello!

Yes, I know I have a relationship. Yes, I know that I have said I am “poly.” None of this is hidden… all of this is clear.

So let’s get this clear as well… I only said hello. That was it. It was a simple hello. I wanted to begin a dialog to get to know you.

Just because I want to get to know you does not mean I am trying to “recruit you!”

For one reason or another, I saw something in you that made me want to get to know you. There was an interest in you. And I sincerely wanted to learn more.

I didn’t see you as the “next one” nor do I see you as a play toy. I see you as an interesting person, or as an attractive person that I am hoping is interesting. And that is it.

I am not recruiting you for “poly.”

So you don’t need to tell me you are not poly. Really, at this point I don’t care if you are poly. I don’t care if you are single, married, bi, straight, gay, into all the same things as I am or whatever else defines who you are.

I want to learn these things about you, yes. That is part of getting to know you. Making a friend requires you get to know them. And that they get to know you. So why is it that this one part of who I am somehow becomes a road block to you wanting to get to know me?

I am not “recruiting” period!

If you don’t want to talk or get to know me, that’s fine. But if we do talk, my goal here is only to make a friend. If somehow along the the way, we happen to find that there is a deeper interest, then fine… we can talk about that! But until then, RELAX! I am not recruiting. I am just getting to know you.

Perhaps there is a misconception with the idea of “poly.” Let me see if I can clear this up. For me, it is the ability to truly care for more that one person in a very intimate way. For this to be something that is even a potential, I have to care for you in an intimate way! I just said hello to you… we aren’t intimate yet at all!

I am not trying to find anyone. I am not seeking you out to become part of my “poly group.” I am making friends and getting to know them.

If along the way, there is more to it, we can address it at that point. But until then, simply chill out and relax please. Someone has found you to be interesting and would like to get to know you. Enjoy it!