Entering into a poly scenario can be a scary prospect, especially when you are getting involved with someone who is married. Even if marriage isn’t in play, if there are already established relationships, the same fears can exist. A recent AMA question asked this: I started a poly relationship and…
So you’ve decided to open up your relationship, huh? Well before you go running down to the hardware store for that “Open” sign to hang over your relationship door, let’s make sure we have a proper “business” plan in place. Opening up a relationship can be exciting and at the…
I’ve never liked the concept of hierarchy within polyamorous relationships. The concept of telling someone that they are “secondary” always felt so very offensive to me. How in the hell do you tell someone they are “second place” in your life? It just feels so wrong. Hierarchy as Color I think…
For the longest time, I dated with purpose. Growing up, it was the expectation of dating… to find a partner, aiming towards marriage. White picket fence, 2.5 kids, the whole thing. When I started this journey, the habits continued. Dating with purpose… seeking to create a dynamic (especially since dynamics…
In the Beginning No, this ain’t going Biblical. Or… will it?You see, I know that when it comes to first dates, second dates and all the subsequent dates in the beginning of getting to know someone, our culture seems to have a TON of expectations in place. And as much…
“We are seeking our unicorn. She must be this or that, and always know her place.” Ok, so that is a bit of a snarky rendition of the “unicorn” ads you will see, but for the most part that is the unicorn in a nutshell. The “third wheel” of a…
I AM POLY This almost sounds funny to say, but it is in fact how I see myself. I have been asked on more than one occasion to explain what this means, so I wanted to take a moment to try and explain it in a writing. Wikipedia defines Polyamorous…
Yes, I know I have a relationship. Yes, I know that I have said I am “poly.” None of this is hidden… all of this is clear. So let’s get this clear as well… I only said hello. That was it. It was a simple hello. I wanted to begin…
I am not writing this post to tell you how wonderful “poly” is. Nor will I use this to try and convince you that you may well be poly even if you don’t think so. That is not my place to decide. But I would like to make a simple…